LEARN THE ART OF CONSTRUCTIVE ARGUMENT

Sincere and heartfelt communication is unaguably an essential ingredient in the success of any relationship be it filial, romantic or platonic. As a young person, you no doubt belong to a family, have friends and will one day have your own family. Therefore, it's important to learn the art of communication. This contributes to a lasting relationship.

Because of lack of communication skills, some if not most people mistake every disagreement, misunderstanding or even argument as quarrel. That is not often the case because it's said that ' in any human relationship, there's bound to be disagreement. And any such relationship without disagreement is sometimes not considered as real'. What matters however, is how such disagreements are handled such that they do not escalate into quarrels.

When disagreement arises, different people react and handle it differently; some choosing to talk it over, others applying the 'silent' method (very detrimental to a relationship), whereas others preferring not to talk about the matter at all because they lack the art of constructive argument, believing that every argument leads to fight.

Since we can't do without socializing  with others, it's therefore important that we understand that social interaction does not come without misunderstanding. Hence, to have good relationship with others, there's need to learn to settle disagreement amicably, without having to resort into quarrelling.

Learning to accept criticism is the key.  Understand that your opinion is not always the best, that there are people whose reasonings might be better than yours whether they are literate or illiterate; some who do not and cannot swallow just anything presented to them; they have to ask questions on the matter, juxtapose your new opinion with what they already know before accepting it. This can only be realized through constructive argument and reasoning.

 Learning to establish your reasons for your proposition such that it's clearly understandable to others without turning it into an oral battle field is the beginning of your success. Also, put yourself in the shoes of others. You don't just believe every word you hear, do you? If not, then you cannot expect others to just gullibly accept or agree with whatever proposition you bring to the table without reasoning on it before making their informed decision.

Indeed, learning to explain your point on a matter to others without resorting to fight of words is an essential quality in the communication art.